Let’s talk about sex – or at least the times of day different age groups should have it and why.

Sex really does solve a lot of issues in a relationship (obviously, not all).

Not only does it help to solidify connections with each other, but it’s also something that ensures you’re feeling less stressed and more in love.

Anyway, having sex (whether it’s a lot or rare) depends largely on your life situation, such as age, health, work and whether or not you have children.

So, it’s only natural for your sex life to change every now and then – but how do you work around this?

Perhaps a schedule? A survey by Lovehoney found that 60 per cent of people do not plan for sex, and 38 per cent are willing to do it in the future.

But what time is the best for your age? According to a sex expert (sexpert for short), your hormones play an important role when you’re likely to get off.

You age determines when to have sex (Getty stock images)

Age 20-30

We all remember our 20s, particularly the early side of that decade and boy, was it full of sex.

According to Mike Kocsis, hormone health expert and founder of Balance My Hormones, this is because your hormones are the most ‘robust’ throughout your 20s.

“You have a higher libido, especially around ovulation, and you have more energy and emotional response to intimacy,” Mike explained to Metro.

So, you might be ready to go as soon as you wake up as you’re biologically ready to be on the baby making train.

So, get going in the morning.

Obviously, you’ve got more time to be spontaneous without kiddies running around, so you can afford to be lax on a sex schedule.

Age 30-40

After going through with your baby making plan, now you’ve found that you have less time to dedicate to sexual encounters with your other half.

So, you have to have sex whenever time presents itself.

Even if you don’t have kids, you’ve probably got a stressful job, which makes it hard for you to want to get into the mood once you’ve clocked out.

Stress, from any source, affects your sex hormone production, with Mike sharing that stress releases prolactin, which ‘supresses reproductive function’ in your body as well as minimizing dopamine.

But that doesn’t mean it’s a sex killer, as your 30s are a time for ‘deeper and more emotionally satisfying’ sex.

Your hormones fluctuate (Getty stock images)

“Sex can become less driven by hormonal spikes and more by trust, connection, and oxytocin-driven bonding,” Mike said. “Fluctuations in oestrogen and testosterone can make sex drive less predictable, but stronger body awareness and emotional depth can lead to more satisfaction.”

Age 40-50

Finally, you’ve entered the stage where things settle down a little bit.

Your kids might be older; your job may have become less stress-filled and now you’ve got time for that morning sex again.

However, menopause might be around the corner between 45-55, which can lower libidos and for men as testosterone may lower, making it harder to orgasm.

But for Mike, this means that it’s important to carve out some time for ‘intentional, pressure-free’ sex.

Age 50-60

Here’s when oestrogen and testosterone decline, and ‘oxytocin becomes more important than ever for intimacy’.

Scheduling it could be the best thing to do (Getty stock images)

So, even if it’s not sex, intimacy is very important to keep.

As for the time, perhaps morning or midday when your energy levels are at their highest.

Age 60+

According to Mike, your 60s are when your hormones take you to a ‘phase of sexuality that’s richer and more intentional than ever’.

Maybe it’s having less stress, kids and work to worry about?

Anyway, at this point, you’ve got all of the time in the world but perhaps late afternoons and early evenings are key here as you’ll have wound down from the day and it’ll bring you a nice glow just before dinner and an early night of rest.

Anyway, the key takeaway here is that scheduling your sex life isn’t a bad thing – it might just improve it.

A recently published study has revealed three physical habits that are linked to a sexually-fulfilled relationship.

While every sex life and relationship is different, some studies have spotted trends when it comes to what keeps couples feeling happy and connected in and out of the bedroom. One study of 2,000 mixed-sex couples aged 20 to 39 found that having sex once a week was enough for 86% of people to say they felt sexually satisfied.

Now, a survey focused mostly on LGBTQ+ adults in committed relationships identified three patterns of physical behaviour that tie in to sexual satisfaction.

In August and September 2022, researchers Alyssa N. Clark and Eva S. Lefkowitz surveyed 336 adults in long-term relationships. Relationship durations differed from 6 months to 43 years, but the average relationship length in the study was 6 to 7 years. The average age was 29 years.

The study surveyed 336 adults in long-term relationships. (Eric O’Connell/Getty)

Publishing their results in the published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, the team found that couples engaging in three physical behaviours reported the most satisfaction. These behaviours expressed affection, comfort and intimacy and ranged anywhere from playful interactions to holding hands, cuddling, kissing and even just sitting close together on the couch. As non-verbal expressions of love, these everyday gestures can help couples feel more connected.

Furthermore, the study grouped participants into three categories based on how physically affectionate they were. These were labelled Infrequent Physical Behaviours, Affection-Focused Behaviours, and Comprehensive Physical Behaviours.

Participants in the first group – around 16% – reported low engagement in both sexual and affectionate behaviours, with a moderate amount of kissing and hugging. This group also recorded lower levels of sexual and relationship satisfaction compared to other groups in the survey.

Meanwhile, representing 36% of participants, the Affection-Focused Behaviours group frequently engaged in cuddling and other affectionate behaviours, but reported less sexual activity.

48% of participants reported the highest levels of sexual satisfaction. (Kinga Krzeminska/Getty)

The Comprehensive Physical Behaviours group, which involved 48% of participants, reported the highest levels of sexual satisfaction. Participants in this group also asserted regularly engaging in nearly all types of physical behaviours, both sexual and affectionate.

In short, little but regular physical interaction can go a long way. According to the findings, the more physically affectionate you are with your partner, both in and out of the bedroom, the more likely you are to feel ‘happy’ in your sex life. That said, the study didn’t draw conclusions about causality, which means it’s unclear if being more affectionate leads to better sex or if good sex makes couples more affectionate – or maybe, another factor entirely is at play..

When watching a movie and it starts to get a bit steamy, the last thing you’re thinking is if the characters are actually doing the deed.

While Hollywood’s elite are paid a handsome amount to make you believe they are in fact having sex on screen, most of us know that isn’t actually the case.

Or at least, we thought we knew.

Yes, there have been a handful of actors who have come out to explain they actually went to fourth base with their co-stars.

So, if watching sex scenes in movies with your parents in the room isn’t awkward enough, some of them could be classed as a porno!

Now, let’s get into the full list of bizarre movies where actors have real unsimulated sex in them – created by someone on Letterboxd, the social platform for discussing films.

For those of us who are unfamiliar with the terminology, unsimulated sex just means the ‘actors’ are going the full hog on screen.

The 276-strong list features some movies you’d expect, like Caligula – the infamous movie that incorporated so much sex, it had to drastically cut out before being allowed to take it to the big screens.

Caligula is a historical epic starring Malcolm McDowell and Helen Mirren, produced by the creator of Penthouse magazine who edited his own hardcore sex scenes into the movie (Analysis Film Releasing Corporation)

The 1979 film was banned in several countries, including the US, with police in its home country of Italy labelling it ‘flagrantly obscene’.

While most of the list is padded out with films that don’t necessarily have the blockbuster budget, some notable names on the list are Antichrist, I Am Curious (Yellow) and Starlet.

Antichrist starred Willem Dafoe and Charlotte Gainsbourg, and it featured their characters having unsimulated sex on screen.

But if you thought you were going to see the Green Goblin knock his socks off on-screen, then you’d be sadly mistaken, as the 2009 horror actually employed body doubles to do their dirty work.

The Letterboxd list wouldn’t be complete without Antichrist on there (Curzon Film)

When asked about the scenes, Dafoe explained that both he and Gainsbourg were married when they took on the roles, pointing out: “I’m not sure everybody would be cool with that.”

One film that didn’t make the list was the 2013 flick The To-Do List – starring Aubrey Plaza as high school student Brandy Klark.

Plaza, who was 28 years old at the time she was portraying the teen, admitted in an interview with Conan O’Brien that she pleasured herself on-screen after initially thinking that the scene in which she did so would only show her hand going ‘slowly go out of frame’.

She recalled: “I asked the director ‘what should I do’ and she said ‘masturbate like it says in the script’.”

Unfortunately, cheating can sometimes occur in monogamous relationships, but an OnlyFans creator believes they’ve cracked the code on male infidelity.

According to statistics from the Smith Investigation Agency, around 40 percent of people in unmarried relationships will deal with acts of adultery.

Moreover, it’s claimed that a staggering 70 percent of Americans will engage in an extramarital affair during their marital life, so make sure you’re staying safe out there!

An adult star has revealed why she believes men cheat. (bonnie_blue_xo/Instagram)

According to an OnlyFans creator from Nottingham, UK, they believe there’s a simple reason why males often cheat on their female partners.

Bonnie Blue is an adult entertainer who claimed earlier this year that she’d slept with around 122 people on a three-week break to Cancun, Mexico.

In a new interview, the 25-year-old said that women ‘moan a lot’, which makes them appear ‘unattractive’ to their boyfriends and husbands.

Speaking to The Daily Star, the content creator said: “Women, especially as they get older, become lazy in the bedroom and think a pillow princess performance will keep their husbands happy.

“When in fact that’s when I find them booking me for the weekend.”

She then revealed her theory: “If women were better in the bedroom, men wouldn’t cheat.

“All their nagging about pots not being done is resulting in me being bent over their kitchen worktops whilst they’re out.

“I used to blame the men for cheating but since being a sex worker, I blame the woman.

“Men look elsewhere when they’re bored, so stop boring them.”

Interestingly, Blue isn’t the only person to hypothesise why men cheat.

Earlier this year, a registered therapist revealed the most common ‘justifications’ they hear regarding infidelity.

Bonnie Blue claims women are ‘boring’ men into infidelity. (bonnie_blue_xo/Instagram)

Clara Zelleroth, a licensed psychologist and couples therapist spoke to Metro and said many people claim the incident ‘just happened’.

“This decision is typically influenced by factors such as alcohol or a time of high stress, making a person more likely to cheat when the opportunity occurs,” she explained.

“In the aftermath, individuals often describe the scenario as ‘it just happened’.”

Another couple of justifications for cheating she’s heard include sexual and emotional dissatisfaction as well as lack of commitment.

“Infidelity can also be linked to low commitment in the primary relationship,” she told the publication.

“People may rationalise their actions with statements like ‘we were just about to break up’ or ‘we are not really in a committed relationship at the moment, just casually dating,’ but their partner might not feel or view the relationship in the same way.”

She added that these feelings often stem from a lack of mutual communication which can therefore lead to differing perceptions between partners.

“You could think of this as the ‘we were on a break’ moment between Ross and Rachel from Friends,” she added.